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Is Love a Part of Your Life Foundation? (part 3) Five Things We Need to Know about Love (Session 3)
May 12, 2024

Is Love a Part of Your Life Foundation? (part 3) Five Things We Need to Know about Love (Session 3)

May 12, 2024

Is Love a Part of Your Life Foundation? (part 3)

Five Things We Need to Know about Love



This is my 3rd attempt to work through this outline!

Let’s see what the Holy Spirit does today!

Matthew 5:13-16 (NKJV)

13 “You are the salt of the earth; but if the salt loses its flavor, how shall it be seasoned? It is then good for nothing but to be thrown out and trampled underfoot by men.

14 “You are the light of the world. A city that is set on a hill cannot be hidden. 15 Nor do they light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a lampstand, and it gives light to all who are in the house. 16 Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven.

The number one light in us is the love of God!

1 John 4:7-8 (NKJV)

Beloved, let us love one another, for love is of God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. 8 He who does not love does not know God, for God is love.

Romans 5:5 (NKJV)

Now hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit who was given to us.

1 John 3:14 (NKJV)

We know that we have passed from death to life, because we love the brethren. He who does not love his brother abides in death.

Two words set this kind of love apart:



What life does to me is determined by what life finds in me!

When we choose to live life in the context of the love of God, friction in relationships decreases and listening, and slowly responding take the forefront.

Am I living selfishly, and is the most important opinion in the room my own?

Am I able to approach people with whom I do not agree in a kind, honest way, without blaming or blame shifting?

Can I be taken advantage of, misunderstood, or be blamed for something I did not do and be not bothered the least by it?

God has given us an ability to love, and to deal with hurtful words and actions from others.

Human love has self interest at the center.

God’s love has God’s interests as the center of all. What God thinks and how He cares about a person is most important when love rules.

Love is both the foundation and motivation for the kingdom of God.


Love is the central theme of all that God is and does.


*A step out of Love is a step away from God into darkness and into Satan’s territory.

*There is no spiritual growth without growth in love…


5 things we need to know about love:

1. Jesus gave the Jews two commandments to love that absorb the TEN.

Matthew 22:35-40

Then one of them, a lawyer, asked Him a question, testing Him, and saying, Teacher, which is the great commandment in the law?”(37) Jesus said to him, “‘You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.'(38) This is the first and great commandment.

Mark and Luke add…all your strength.

Mark 12:30 (NKJV)

And you shall love the LORD your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind, and with all your strength.’ This is the first commandment.

Love for God is shown by obeying Him!

John 14:21 (NKJV)

He who has My commandments and keeps them, it is he who loves Me. And he who loves Me will be loved by My Father, and I will love him and manifest Myself to him.”

**If you are sleeping around, living with a person you are not married to, lying, cheating, holding grudges, gossiping, lashing out in anger when you don’t get your way, who do you love?

John 14:23-24 (NKJV)

Jesus answered and said to him, “If anyone loves Me, he will keep My word; and My Father will love him, and We will come to him and make Our home with him. 24 He who does not love Me does not keep My words; and the word which you hear is not Mine but the Father’s who sent Me.

Luke 6:46 (NKJV)

But why do you call Me ‘Lord, Lord,’ and not do the things which I say?

Matthew 7:21-23 (NKJV)

Not everyone who says to Me, Lord, Lord,’ shall enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of My Father in heaven. 22 Many will say to Me in that day, ‘Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in Your name, cast out demons in Your name, and done many wonders in Your name?’ 23 And then I will declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from Me, you who practice lawlessness!’

1 John 2:3-4 (NKJV)

Now by this we know that we know Him, if we keep His commandments. 4 He who says, “I know Him,” and does not keep His commandments, is a liar, and the truth is not in him.

Back to Matthew 22:

Matthew 22:35-40

Then one of them, a lawyer, asked Him a question, testing Him, and saying, Teacher, which is the great commandment in the law?”(37) Jesus said to him, “‘You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.'(38) This is the first and great commandment.

(39) And the second is like it: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ (40) On these two commandments hang all the Law and the Prophets.”

They sum up our responsibilities towards both God and our fellow man.

Love God

Love your neighbor as yourself

Ask yourself these questions as you go through your day:

Is what I’m doing, saying, thinking, etc., showing my love and devotion to Jesus?

Would I want what I am saying ,doing to this person done to me?

If you love completely, you will not break any of the Ten Commandments.

You won’t curse using God’s name.

You will honor your parents.

You will not lie.

You will not covet other people’s property.

You will not commit adultery, or fornication, or lust…

You will not worship idols.

You will not murder, or hold a grudge…

You will not steal.

Romans 13:8-10 (NLT)

Owe nothing to anyone—except for your obligation to love one another. If you love your neighbor, you will fulfill the requirements of God’s law. (9) For the commandments say, “You must not commit adultery. You must not murder. You must not steal. You must not covet.” These—and other such commandments—are summed up in this one commandment: “Love your neighbor as yourself.” (10) Love does no wrong to others, so love fulfills the requirements of God’s law.

2. Jesus gave believers a new commandment which, if obeyed, fulfills all others.

John 13: 34-35

(34) A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that you also love one another. (35) By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.”

As I have loved you:

Peter, I have prayed for you that your faith fail not…

Bread dipped in olive oil given to Judas. A token of honor.

Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do…


How we treat people shows if we are Jesus lovers or not…

Not Bible Knowledge

Not Church Attendance

Not Church work


1981- Lady began to quote scripture…

What do people think about when they think of you?

Love, God’s love, is the greatest witness you have to those around you.

How are you doing showing the love God gave you to others?

3. Love cures strife and keeps the dark kingdom out of your life.

There is a huge rise in the demonic realm. You can feel it in the atmosphere as the spirit of Antichrist asserts itself worldwide.

It is creating an antagonism between races, nations, men, women, religions, politics, you name it, it is creating an angst!

James 3:14-16 (NKJV)

But if you have bitter envy and self-seeking in your hearts, do not boast and lie against the truth. (15) This wisdom does not descend from above, but is earthly, sensual, demonic. (16) For where envy and (strife) self-seeking exist, confusion and every evil thing are there.

James 3:14-16 -Amplified

(14) But if you have bitter jealousy (envy) and contention (rivalry, selfish ambition) in your hearts, do not pride yourselves on it and thus be in defiance of and false to the Truth. (15) This [superficial] wisdom is not such as comes down from above, but is earthly, unspiritual (animal), even devilish (demoniacal). (16) For wherever there is jealousy (envy) and contention (rivalry and selfish ambition), there will also be confusion (unrest, disharmony, rebellion) and all sorts of evil and vile practices.

Strife is necessary for Satan to work at his best!

As oxygen fuels a fire – strife fuels darkness.

What happens when you starve a fire of oxygen?

Cover your candle in a jar with the top and what happens?

Satan seeks to stifle your walk with God through strife.


1 Corinthians 3: 1-3

And I, brethren, could not speak to you as to spiritual people but as to carnal, as to babes in Christ. (2) I fed you with milk and not with solid food; for until now you were not able to receive it, and even now you are still not able;(3) for you are still carnal. For where there are envy, strife, and divisions among you, are you not carnal and behaving like mere men?

Babies are sweet until they don’t get their way.

Philippians 2:3 -KJV

Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves.


2 Timothy 2:24 -NKJV

(24) And a servant of the Lord must not quarrel but be gentle to all, able to teach, patient, (25) in humility correcting those who are in opposition, if God perhaps will grant them repentance, so that they may know the truth, (26) and that they may come to their senses and escape the snare of the devil, having been taken captive by him to do his will.


4. Jesus introduced the concept of loving your enemies to the disciples.

Matthew 5: 38-44 – NKJV

You have heard that it was said, ‘An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth…

Deuteronomy 19:21 (NKJV)

Your eye shall not pity: life shall be for life, eye for eye, tooth for tooth, hand for hand, foot for foot.

Matthew 5:39

(39) But I tell you not to resist an evil person. But whoever slaps you on your right cheek, turn the other to him also…

Proverbs 20:22 (NLT)

Don’t say, “I will get even for this wrong.” Wait for the LORD to handle the matter.

Romans 12:17-18 (NLT)

Never pay back evil with more evil. Do things in such a way that everyone can see you are honorable. 18 Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone.

1 Peter 3:9 (NLT)

9 Don’t repay evil for evil. Don’t retaliate with insults when people insult you. Instead, pay them back with a blessing. That is what God has called you to do, and he will grant you his blessing.

Matthew 5:40

(40) If anyone wants to sue you and take away your tunic, let him have your cloak also.

(41) And whoever compels you to go one mile, go with him two. (42) Give to him who asks you, and from him who wants to borrow from you do not turn away. (43) “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’

Leviticus 19:17-18 (NKJV)

You shall not hate your brother in your heart. You shall surely rebuke your neighbor, and not bear sin because of him. 18 You shall not take vengeance, nor bear any grudge against the children of your people, but you shall love your neighbor as yourself: I am the LORD.

Matthew 5:44

(44) But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you, (45) that you may be sons of your Father in heaven; for He makes His sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust. (46) For if you love those who love you, what reward have you? Do not even the tax collectors do the same? (47) And if you greet your brethren only, what do you do more than others? Do not even the tax collectors do so? (48) Therefore you shall be perfect, just as your Father in heaven is perfect.


They were accustomed to eye for eye tooth for tooth. I will do to you what you do to me. This love was foreign to them.

Matthew 5:44-48 (Message)

I’m challenging that. I’m telling you to love your enemies. Let them bring out the best in you, not the worst. When someone gives you a hard time, respond with the energies of prayer, for then you are working out of your true selves, your God-created selves. This is what God does. He gives His best—the sun to warm and the rain to nourish—to everyone, regardless: the good and bad, the nice and nasty. If all you do is love the lovable, do you expect a bonus? Anybody can do that. If you simply say hello to those who greet you, do you expect a medal? Any run-of-the-mill sinner does that.
“In a word, what I’m saying is, Grow up. You’re kingdom subjects. Now live like it. Live out your God-created identity. Live generously and graciously toward others, the way God lives toward you.


5. This love is like an alien to our world.

1 John 3:1-NKJV

Behold what manner of love the Father has bestowed on us, that we should be called children of God! Therefore the world does not know us, because it did not know Him.

This Love is a Stranger

What manner of – Gk – potapen –

from what country, tribe or race; something foreign;

Other translations – from what far realm; what unearthly; how otherworldly…

Wuest, Volume III, p. 143

The foreign kind of love produced in us by the Holy Spirit constitutes us a foreign kind of person to the people of this world, and since they do not understand foreigners, people of a different race from themselves, they simply do not understand Christians. Children of God could just as well have come to earth from a strange planet so far as the people of the world are concerned. They are strangers to them.

This is by far the most difficult thing you will ever do.


This love will cause people to notice a difference in you, and will become the oil as it were in the machinery of relationships.

Action Points:

1. What would need to change in me for the two great commandments to get top priority each day?

2. What makes the love of God look so different from human love?

3. Talk about Matthew 5:43-44 and how it could change a current difficult relationship.


A Word to my Enemies


You are not really my enemies at all…in reality you are some of the best friends I have.


I speak in sincerity and truth, there can be no perfection in the lives of God’s elect without the chastising work of a real enemy. When a friend extols all my good virtues and praises me from their heart of true friendship, I feel nothing but love for them. But when I hear of an enemy who has unjustly brought shame upon me, there rises up a spirit of defending myself, and a spirit of “righteous indignation” to refute the enemy. It is then that the wrongness of my own spirit I see in me, the things I did not know were there before. With repenting and sorrow of heart I cry to God, and He delivers me from that which I have seen in my life. It was hidden, lying dormant, until you, my beloved enemy brought it to light with your crucifying process. The prophets of old would never have had the glory of being stoned for the Word of God – no martyr’s crown could ever have been won by early Christians without real enemies.


You see, I cannot crucify myself, and my friends will not do it. So it takes you, my enemy, to bring me to the cross. And to the cross I must come, if ever I am to come to the glory of perfection. But I have much progress yet to make before coming to the image of my lovely Jesus. There is much I must yet learn. And you, my enemy, are teaching me. I have learned that the road to glory is by the way of the cross. Without you I would not have found the way. I’m sure if you knew the good your efforts are working out in my life, you would not want to help me so much. But the work is being done, and I have learned to love you because of it. “Love you enemies” He said, and I wondered how I could do it. But you have taught me. For because of you I have grown in God, increased in His grace, and partaken of His divine nature.


Your work has been sharp and cutting, and many times I was hurt and wounded deeply. But out of these trying experiences I have come forth a better Christian, and further on my way to being an overcomer. I doubt that you will receive any rewards for your lies and your efforts to destroy me, for “woe unto them through whom these offenses come.” But I want you to know that though your loss may be great on the Day of Judgment, I love you and appreciate the ministry you have had in perfecting this life of mine.


Bill Britton






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